An article in The New York Times Sunday edition of December 9th offers some insights on how to be a great mentor.
The article comes from the Corner Office column by Adam Bryant who interviewed Tony Tjan, chief executive and founder of Cue Ball about his experience as a mentor.
Tjan said he learned from one of his partners who had patterned a mentoring philosophy inspired by Deepak Chopra.
Here are the five questions that any leader should ask those they mentor:
- What is it that your really want to be and do?
- What are you doing really well that is helping you get there?
- What are you not doing well that is preventing your from getting there?
- What will you do differently tomorrow to meet those challenges?
- How can I help, and where do you need the most help?
According to the article, the order in sequence of these five questions is critical to success as a mentor. You need to understand the mentee’s larger purpose; understand their self-awareness around their strengths; understand the blocks to accomplishing their goals; and understand the mentee’s plan and motivation to change.
In our Toastmaster club more senior members mentor newer members. For many newer members, the benefit of this relationship comes more in building an awareness of how to fully integrate oneself into the Toastmaster experience than just learning how to speak in public.
Many of our members find equal value in learning how to work with others in group situations and growing their own leadership abilities. It is these skills, along with a better ability to speak in public, that many of our members take with them when they leave our Toastmaster experience.