Social media especially in the form of texting on our cell phones is changing not only how we do things but is actually changing who we are.
This should be of concern to all of us at Toastmasters as we belong to an educational organization that teaches interpersonal skills.
According to a TED Talk by Sherry Turkle, a psychologist and author, says texting allows us to remove ourselves from our environment and how we related to others and how we even related to ourselves.
We are losing the ability to have self-reflection.
Turkle says we can end up hiding from each other even though we are in the same room. It’s easier to play with our Blackberrys and IPhones rather than interact with other adults.
Texting, email and posting all allow us to edit and retouch what we say and how we appear to others. By using this technology we get to control our environment.
Turkle says that human conversation is messy. It takes place in real time and you can’t control what you’re going to say.
By testing we sacrifice real conversation for mere connection.
So when you look across the breakfast table or the boardroom table consider that the person texting is actually experiencing a flight from real connection with you and even from themselves.
Isn’t that sad?
We expect more from technology and less from each other. We connect more and more and yet we become increasingly isolated and lonely she says.
Watch the video.